4-11-2023 I am so sorry to say that Linda is gone

It was both not sudden and sudden at the same time. She fought so damn hard. But this morning, her lungs gave out and we lost her. Yesterday, we thought she actually had been getting better--she was able to eat and interact with us for the first time in several days. It didn't quite rise to the "rally" many say that people have just before death--she was still struggling--it just seemed that she was improving. 

But this morning, she was still the same when the caregiver left at 6 a.m., as well as when Ed checked in on her around 6:30. But by 7:15, her breathing had begun to be labored. By just after 8, she was gone. But at the moment she left, we were holding her hands and telling her how much we loved her.

Her journey is over--or just begun, depending on what you believe. Thank you so much for all the prayers and support. It has meant more to us, and to her, than you'll ever know.

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  1. AnonymousApril 15, 2023 at 7:37 AM

    Yes, Lind fought a good fight, but you girls and Ed did too. Not many people would have dedicated their time as you all did. That shows your love for Linda. God will bless you for your love and dedication.

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    1. TriciaApril 17, 2023 at 11:30 AM

      Thanks so much for those kind words. There were many moments that gave us a lot of hope, but it wasn't meant to be. But we loved her very much, and I only hope that she knew how much. Thank you again. <3

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