8-13-2021 Linda wants to go home

(Marilyn)

It was a very emotional day for me.  Linda begged to go home.  I had brought my iPad and Face-Timed with Tricia and we played some Trivia games.When we ended the Face-Time call, Linda started in on me again, saying that I am purposely keeping her a prisoner and not letting her go home.  This is getting to be more than I can handle emotionally.  I think I am going to take a few days off and re-charge myself.  When my husband had cancer I was at his side 24/7 and never took any time for myself.  I truly believe that is the reason my health has deteriorated (atrial fibrillation, Parkinsons, pacemaker).  It's like they say on airplanes -- take care of yourself so that you are better able to take care of your loved one.  It is incredibly difficult to take time to, for instance, spend a day at a spa, when all you can think about is your loved one suffering.  But at my age I am in the twilight years of my life and I worry -- well, you get the picture.....

Tricia will probably update her blog but she had an interesting day. Linda called her.  We don't know how Linda was able to get access to a phone, but she called Tricia and asked her to come and visit.  More details on that later as well as Tricia's conquest of the Depakote issue.

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