8-26-2021 Sadness (continued)

(Marilyn)

All of the possibilities have started to come at me from all sides and it's tough to post these updates.

For the past two days, Linda has been all over the map.  You know, when I took care of my husband for 3-1/2 years, I thought that was awful, but this is far worse.  Marshall was always lucid and we could discuss the situation and things that we needed to do, doctor appointments, medications, etc.  But with Linda it's not really possible to talk to her about the future. Every hour the conversation is repeated.

She fell again today and it was her fault because she refuses to listen to the nurses (or me).  If she's in the wheelchair she wants to be in the bed.  If she's in the bed she wants to be in the wheelchair.

There are two women that resemble Linda's best friend Sue and whenever one of those women walks past the room, Linda says "I'm really glad Sue is here, it makes me feel good."  And she thinks Mother is cooking all the meals especially for her.  I corrected her the first two times and it made her start bawling.  So now I just go along with it and it makes her happy.  

Today she had trouble talking but she did everything else beautifully.  She went to Physical Therapy and walked for 82 feet with almost no assistance, just a walker.  She did her speech therapy better than usual.  She went to the bathroom twice with minimal assistance (but the second time is when she fell).  She ate her meals.  So there was a lot of good this morning.

Tomorrow I can't go because my boss wants me available.  I'm not sure if Linda will miss me.  When I come in the morning, she always says, "Thank goodness you're here."  But she never remembers that I was there the day before.  She still gets day and night all confused.  

The patient across the hall is a screamer and after several hours it can really give you a headache.  And Linda, who is usually very quiet, actually yelled "SHUT UP!"  This lady made off with Linda's TV remote and she has two imaginary cats that she is always looking for.  Yesterday the lady thought her cats were in Linda's room.  LOL

That's it for today.  So depressing.  

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